How many secrets is to much secrets? Do you know for sure your partner is completely honest with you?
Here is my point of view and maybe a little advice.
Take a little quiz about your marriage and ask your self these questions.
- Where is my partner right now?
- Does he/she really like the things i like? or does he/she participate just to make me happy?
- Do you know the password to your partner's phone, laptop or other personal items?
- How often does your partner go on business trips? Do you know where he/she is staying?
- Does your partner have a secret room, secret box, secret something that you are not allowed access?
- Is my partner really happy in this union? Or are we just comfortable with each other?
- How is the sex? Fine, Satisfactory, need some work, Awesome everytime, No we dont have sex. ?
- What activities you do as a couple?
- Do you feel jealous if your partner looks at a beautiful woman or a handsome men?
- Is the answers to all these questions I previously answered mutual?
If it is, even if most of it are lies, are you okay living with the situation? would you rather tell the truth or do you choose to continue lying?
So enough about the questions already right..lol
Here is my take on Lying to Save your Marriage
I think as human beings men and women everyone needs there space. There is that personal space we all need, yes we love our partner and we wanna make our marriage work, but that does not give you or your partner the right to invade personal space. If you like to go fishing in your personal space that is your right. We do not own the people in our lives, we share time with them and most times we forget and feel we own them but we dont. So give your partner that space he/she needs, in that way you give your partner something to think about and less of a reason to lie.
The next mistake we make is getting jealous and starting a brawl if your partner looks at a beautiful woman or man. Seriously STOP IT NOW!!! We are human if we see something beautiful we look, that doesnt mean we are going to leave you and start a new family with the random stranger on the street. Because believe it or not when you are not around we do look! So save yourself the drama and just allow your partner to look, it might even work out for the best, who knows it may spice things up in the bedroom a little?!
And last but not least TALK to your partner, if feel you have nothing to talk about talk about politics, thats the quickest way to start a conversation. LAUGH seeing your wife smile or your husband smile brings back forgotten memories of the good times you had and the reason you fell in love in the first place! It really does!
So friends share your thoughts on this and tell me if it helped you! It aids to a successful marriage, I know I am happily married for the past 6 years and going strong.
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