LIFE AFTER MOTHERHOOD (men and women should read this)

To all the Hardworking mommies out there this one is for you.

Becoming a mother is a blessing, it is also a test of strength of how much a human can do.

Mothers have to endure pain, heart aches, head aches, we have to be a guidance counselor a wife a chef a best friend,  we have to able to keep secrets locked away, we have to jump hurdles put a smile on our face and still have time to look pretty. The list goes on, its endless.

Being a woman and having to endure all of these challenges its hard but most of the time all we do is put a smile on our faces and say "oh its just wonderful being a mommy" 

Don't give me wrong, being a mommy is wonderful but most of the times you just wanna scream into a pillow at the top of your lungs. Right? 

Well for all the women out there who are ashamed to say it, I'm saying it for you!!!

After motherhood we are still WOMEN.

And what women want? That has always been the question from the beginning of time. 

Men after your wife gives birth and become a mother for your child please refrain from looking at her like a mommy. 

She is a mother for your child therefore she is your Queen, she is not your mother!!! You do not and should not look at her and make comparisons to your mother. When your wife becomes your Queen you should treat her as such. Women that are mothers have it really hard at the end of the day; no one likes to be pooped. peed, and vomited on at the end of the day. 

Dedicated mothers know what I am talking about, so therefore the man should step in here.

Your Queen would forget all about the day fracas if you just show her appreciation, buy something everyday even if its a candy. This gesture shows so much appreciation, it shows you have been thinking about her at some point of time in your day.

Call your Queen at least once a day and ask about your child and ask your Queen how "SHE IS DOING" 

Do not ask about the house or whats for dinner, when you do this you just stress your wife even more, don't dictate her paste, a woman hates when you do that. She doesn't tell you how to do your job, don't tell her how to do hers. Give her the time she deserves. Your woman deserves alone time, give her that much.

Take her out on dates, she is still your wife and she should be treated as such, surprise her, tell her shes beautiful, pretend you just met her everyday, discover more about that person everyday. 

Please men do not leave this up to the woman to do cause she already have so much going on, taking care of your child and you the best of her ability. This is your end of the slack, pick it up and run with it.

Have amazing sex with your wife, it helps, A LOT!!!! be sure to check out some of my other blogs for tips in the bedroom ;)

Okay ladies its time for your psychological part.

Ladies ladies ladies, change the mind concept you have going on in your head. Change it now!!! 

Just because you have baby doesn't mean your life as a woman is over. 

Stop feeling guilty if you cry because you are a bit stressed. 

Stop feeling guilty if you leave you baby with a babysitter for a couple of hours to have some girly time. 

Stop feeling guilty if you feel to just run sometimes.

STOP STOP STOP

Thinking these thoughts doesn't make us a bad mother or person it makes us human.

So please ladies I advice each and everyone of you to take the time you deserve. You deserve that couple of hours to enjoy your life. 

"YOUR LIFE"  you are still a woman you still have feelings, you want to look beautiful take that time to go shopping, take that extra 15 mins in the bathroom to just soak in that warm water and groom yourself.

Structure your life to suit you don't let life and other people structure it for you.

Go out!!!! Get out the house!!!! Breathe!!! Live!!! Laugh!!! Love!!!! 

Have your alone time and do the things you want to do, even if it means taking the couple of hours to just sit and cry. We are all human and we cry for a reason, crying helps. Let it out!!!

When you have had your alone time, return to reality, pick up your baby do your duties as a mother and then when your husband returns home, let him see a woman!!! A beautiful woman, not a mother a Woman!!!

Check out our kama sutra blog for help in the bedroom.

So ladies I hoped I helped in someway or another. Live, Laugh, Love. Don't be afraid, we are all human.

Love you guys

xoxo

Sasha

Todays Beauty Tips

Lips

If you suffer from scaly lips, a simple do-it-yourself trick to exfoliate them takes only a finger scoop of Vaseline and a toothbrush.

Step 1: Slather lips with petroleum jelly
Step 2: Use a toothbrush to massage in the jelly in a circular motion. Step 3: Wipe off the excess petroleum jelly.

The toothbrush exfoliates lips while the petroleum jelly leaves lips extra soft. Repeat a couple times a day until your lips are no longer scaly.

Eyebrows

If like most women, you were born with sparse brows or simply went too far with the tweezers, there is a fix to filling in your eyebrows. All it takes is a pencil, powder, and an angled brush or a clean mascara brush.

Pick a Pencil and Powder Shade

Pencils and powders tend to stick to skin, not to hair, so if you don't have a lot of hair you'll want to shade in the skin where hair should grow.

Select a soft pencil (hard pencils tend to be too waxy) which is a shade lighter than your brows and a powder which matches the color of brows. If brows are super fair, choose a pencil that's a shade darker than brows.

Prep the Brows

First, comb out brows with a clean mascara wand. Examine brows for any sparse spots.

Fill in With Pencil

Use the pencil to fill in the sparse spots with short, feathery strokes. Apply in the direction of hair growth. The key here is not to create a definite line, but to create the appearance of hair. Be careful not to pencil in the entire brow, which will result in an unnatural look.

Your pencil should be super soft so it goes on with little exertion. But if you have a pencil that's too hard, warm the tip up by rubbing it between your fingers.

Follow With Eyeshadow or Brow Powder

Dip an angled brush or a clean mascara wand in eyeshadow. Brush the powder along the brows. It should stick to the pencil, while also acting to blend in the color perfectly. For more staying powder, dampen the brush slightly before dipping it into color.

LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE

Hey guys, did you guys miss me??? I know have not been here for sometime its just that I'm in grieving right now :(
Anyhow, this experience in my life presently gives me erudition to write this blog.
Life is a gift; it's a gift from God to us. We earn life as a human being to live on this earth, to experience the wonders. The wonders of mother earth the wonders of being a human being so much to experience love, happiness, pleasure, speech, sight and the list goes on.
Sometimes we take our lives for granted, we always want more. Is anyone really happy with their life???
Life is so short, make the best of everyday. Enjoy the wondrous glories of the earth, enjoy the sunshine the wind the sun, the beautiful mountains and valleys. We have it all right here on earth. 
Most people spend most of the time working, yes we have to work to live. But what are we really working for? 
We have our wants and needs. We need shelter, food and clothing these are the necessities in life, but too often we want more. If we want more then we need to work harder, when we work harder we have less time to enjoy what we already have.
My advice is to work enough to provide for your necessities and take the rest of the time to enjoy life. Laugh, love, live and most importantly praise God.
What you get in this life is already written for you by God. You wont get more you wont get less, if you believe in Karma and Re-incarnation you will understand this. 
Don't be jealous of what some else may have, be humble for what you have, always share and try to help someone in need. The blessings will come to you ten fold in different ways that you may not even notice it. Always be kind even to your enemies, because whatever they may have done to you, it will come back to them ten fold. So pray for them because whatever obstacle they may throw at you, if you are strong and willing you will overcome it. 
So my friends enjoy the little that you have because some one out there is being deprived of what you are willing to throw away. 
Keep smiling and always do good so that good follows you.
XOXO
Sash...

JuNk N dA TrUnK

So today I wanna talk about being comfortable in your own skin. First of society says we need to be a certain weight in order to fit in. Well I say fuck society!!! who made them the king of weight loss/gain.
I see most people especially ladies out there starving them selves just to fit in to what society perception of "sexy" really is. Because of the media and maybe because of one man ability to say that 120 lbs and under is sexy; we out here starving our selves getting anorexia, bulimia, malnutrition and the list goes on.
Yes is quite true we need to live healthy but at the same time every person body is different. Sometimes with our busy work schedules and hectic lifestyle we don't have time to eat the right foods and work out, because we are to busy trying to accomplish certain goals in life. 

With that being said I will like you all to ask your self this question. What is healthy? Because I don't think anyone on planet earth can eat healthy anymore. Everything that goes into our body is chemicals. The vegetables, fruits and meat that we eat everyday its filled with it, because of mass production and the ability to sell fruits native to one land to another, 20,000 miles away that has the longevity to remain fresh. So when you think about eating healthy consider these factors.

So now I would like to elaborate on the guys!!!
Guys come on be real, you meet a girl and fall in love, get married and have children and expect our body to remain the same and if its not the same you look else where to find youth. I have a little advice for you also. When we have children its because of you, you put it in there. You don't have the pressure of getting your belly and vagina stretched to unimaginable lengths. Don't judge us or give up on us so easily because you are not the hot number you once was any way. What you should be proud about is living with fucking super woman.

I am a woman that is comfortable with the way I look. I have learned to embrace my curves and so should you!!! Don't be bullied by society or significant people in your life. Embrace your curves and your self. 

Build confidence because a confident woman is a sexy woman. As long you have confidence in your self no one can break you. 
So  what if we have a little junk in our trunk? as the saying goes "when life gives you lemons make lemonade"
It's the same thing, if you have a little "junk in da trunk" make good use of it. Learn to dance because you have something to shake ;) 
And who doesn't like your junk in your trunk fuck them bitches! because you don't wake up everyday to please them. Wake up everyday to please yourself. Life is short and it only comes around once, so make the best of it.

Lots of love from a confident, sexy as hell junk of trunk, keep living, keep smiling.
XOXO
Sash...

A little Advice

So seriously why it have some girls out there make themselves so low? Ladies have some standards for yourself and your body, treat your body like a temple and stop letting guys out there take advantage of that.
Stop being a gold digger, I see some girls out there falling for guys because they bought them a drink and the guy driving a nice car or have a nice house blah blah blah.. now I'm not saying no don't for a guy who have his life going on for him, but some of these guys are players, they just looking for a one time use from you. And here you are even though you are being seriously hurt you holding on because of money and Gucci and Prada!
Come on ladies you are worth more, that worth is self respect and being independent, get your self educated find a career and be the type of woman a man will have respect for, the kind of woman that can buy her own Gucci and Prada!
Every one in life has to start somewhere, so why not start now! Make a start today because its not what you didn't do its what you could do. I would love to see women today making a difference not only for themselves but for our children also. I hear stories everyday about men treating woman bad, the truth is there is no good men out there they are all the same, so if you think you leaving one man to go for another because he says he is different well honey you are setting yourself up for disappointment. I am not saying don't take chances, but always leave a space for disappointment, a little space in your heart for disappointment. Yea! I know its sounds hard to do  but the power of our mind never seek to amaze me. Keep telling yourself that you have a space in your heart for disappointment and believe me when a situation arises you will be surprised.
So ladies please take my advice and try to make yourself a better person, don't let guys talk about you like they talk about cars. Have self respect and if you think you lost your self respect already, well you haven't you can work on yourself go to church and pray love god and allow him into your life.
Have a blessed and wonderful day!!!
xoxo
Sash..

JOYFUL JUICES

It was late when she decided to take a stroll outside, to young to dumb to know exactly what she was getting into. The cool breeze of the night caressed her skin as a thousand thoughts flooded her fragile mind.
Was she doing the right thing? Is it worth the risk? Yes it is, I am going strong, fuck society fuck everyone around her, its her life and she needs to live it.
Reality popped back into her as the bright headlights flickered above giving the signal, a sexy slow smile creep across her face, yes this is it my life and it is about to change forever. She made her way to the car, thought twice for the last time and went with her heart; a heart full of revenge, hate, anger, bitterness, the venom so loathed in her throat if she speaks the air would be poisoned. She gets in. Her hands are sweating and her heart racing as if she ran a marathon. Only to be caressed, by the smooth but deep voice that spoke to her "Hi". "Hi" she replied feeling the tremble in her voice, and as the car began to drive the street lights shine into the car just enough for her to see him.
Sexy, dark, deep, muscular, so carved he looked like an ancient Egyptian god. The man was all man, the kinda of man to get you wetting yourself just looking at his lips. and the lights of the street lights just emphasized all these qualities.

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XOXO
SASH..

The Perfect Marriage

The perfect marriage, is there such a thing? 

One person might say the perfect marriage is having the husband home to watch the game on a Sunday evening while the wife go out with her friends. Another might say the perfect marriage is the wife staying home and watching the game with the husband, and so on....
My point is every person has there own take on the perfect marriage, and when God created the world he didn't make it perfect.
In life we have partnerships, we don't have perfect marriages just as our eyes are not the same size neither is the size of our breast..So my friends don't look at your marriage and compare to that of books and movies, because at the end of it  that was created in the imagination of what we expect our lives to be, its not reality.
Reality is living with someone and being able to disagree on topics but at the end of it all when you lay down to sleep next to that person its like you haven't fought at all, the same one you are able to make love to and smile.
So keep smiling and appreciate and love. Our lives are not perfect but whose is? 
Hope I rendered  some information that will be helpful to you in some way or the other, so my friends keep smiling and don't forget to share, like and follow me on Gmail...
xoxo
Sash ;)